When it comes to parenting, one parent will never have the same way of thinking ways in raising their children. Each home has their own unique daily condition in which as a result of certain style of parenting. The style can be derrived as the following;
- Authoritarian. In this style of parenting, children are expected to follow the strict rules established by the parents. Failure to follow such rules usually results in punishment. Authoritarian parents fail to explain the reasoning behind these rules. If asked to explain, the parent might simply reply, "Because I said so." These parents have high demands, but are not responsive to their children. According to Baumrind, these parents "are obedience- and status-oriented, and expect their orders to be obeyed without explanation" (1991).
- Authoritative. Described by Baumrind as the "just right" style, in combines a medium level demands on the child and a medium level responsiveness from the parents. Authoritative parents rely on positive reinforcement and infrequent use of punishment. Parents are more aware of a child's feelings and capabilities and support the development of a child's autonomy within reasonable limits. There is a give-and-take atmosphere involved in parent-child communication and both control and support are. Research shows that this style is more beneficial than the too-hard authoritarian style or the too-soft permissive style.
- Permissive. Sometimes referred to as indulgent parents, have very few demands to make of their children. These parents rarely discipline their children because they have relatively low expectations of maturity and self-control. According to Baumrind, permissive parents "are more responsive than they are demanding. They are nontraditional and lenient, do not require mature behavior, allow considerable self-regulation, and avoid confrontation" (1991). Permissive parents are generally nurturing and communicative with their children, often taking on the status of a friend more than that of a parent.
- Uninvolved. It's characterized by few demands, low responsiveness and little communication. While these parents fulfill the child's basic needs, they are generally detached from their child's life. In extreme cases, these parents may even reject or neglect the needs of their children.
Aside from the conventional styles above, there are also few styles in parenting that famous among the online world.
- "Tiger Moms", was first created by Yale Law School professor Amy Chua. This method was developed as a respon of the very strict Chinese tradition in facing the modern world. Amy forced music practice every day, severe restrictions on extracurriculars, outright bans on social activities like sleepovers, and punishment and shaming on the rare occasions her children failed to attain their mother’s high expectations.
- "Holt and Hall", was developed by Dr. Luther Holt and Dr. G. Stanley Hall. They say that children who are shut away from nature and free movement and play in unwholesome air are more worried and nervous. Innocent children are becoming miniature men and women before their time because of the way parents are bringing them up.
- "Serenity Parenting" by Bryan Caplan is a total opposite if Tiger Moms Method. Caplan states parents are ‘overcharging’ each child, and making parenting look like hard work, putting off other potential parents, he instead suggests a more relaxed approach to education, telling parents not to force their children to be involved in some routine/study/course/activities if they don’t enjoy it.
- "Attachement Parenting" by William Sears explains that the child forms a strong emotional bond with caregivers during childhood with lifelong consequences. Sensitive and emotionally available parenting helps the child to form a secure attachment style which fosters a child's socio-emotional development and well-being.
- "CTFD" was found by David Vienna. CTFD stands for Calm The Fu*k Down has been recently pulled many parents attention. It's probably the most relax style in raising a child.
Should you ever at the point to decide, just remember to follow your instinct and the family approach.